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Posted by 4smilingcat6 (U14338727) on Thursday, 28th October 2010
But some of you know of me.
My wife died last Saturday-she was so brave but cancer spreads.
Although I was the gardener every plant I grow from now will be in her memory
Sorry to hear your sad news. I have found gardening to be such a valuable therapy. It really helped me in similar circumstances.
Hi 4sc6, I think if I remember rightly you contributed to this site quite a lot, but some time ago.
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I think that the sentiment you express is wonderful, and I'm sure that this will help you come to terms with your loss - but it will take a little while.
I do wish you all the luck in the world, and if, like me when you are gardening, your mind wanders to other things, think of all the great times you enjoyed there together - and this therapy, I'm sure, will help heal the loss.
I look forward to your contributions to this site again.
Sorry to hear your news.
x
Hi,
The very same thing happend to us (my wife and i) only two years ago when our mum "mother-in-law"
died of cancer.
It's a cruel fact of life but one we're your torn between the pain of watching the cancer do its work and also the pain when the loved one feels no more pain as it's then you have pain from your loss.
All i can say to you that helps us "even today"
is to have a special spot in your garden we're you can spend private time "Just you and her".
Goole Daniel seamingway and read "The plot"
I think it will help ease the lost feeling you have just now.
My thoughts are with you and i look forward to you coming back when you feel your ready.
Regards PUNPUN;
So sorry to hear of your loss.
4smilingcat6 I remember your postings and look forward to future ones.
Yes, I know of you, Smilingcat.
I am deeply sorry to hear of your wife`s death.
I know you will see her character in everything around you.
We have missed you on this site and I wondered how your wife was doing - so sorry to hear she lost the battle in the end. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time. Nan x
I remember you posting when your wife was about to have an operation and I wondered how things had gone on since then. I'm so sorry to hear that her cancer spread. My thoughts and prayers are also with you.
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Posted by juststartingoff (U11189730) on Saturday, 30th October 2010
My deepest sympathy to you.
Plant plenty of spring bulbs. Hopefully seeing them emerge in the spring will brighten you up and give you encouragement to be strong after all you've gone through.
Come back to the Board as soon as you feel ready and give us more of your knowledge and advice.
I too remember reading a number of your posts and I'm so so sorry about the loss of your wife. Like everyone else on this thread I send you positive thoughts and strength to get through this difficult time. One of the things I love about gardening is that it constantly reminds me that we all form part of nature's great cycle of life, death and re-birth.
Best wishes.
I'm so sorry to hear your sad news FSC. Thinking of you. J.
I've always felt the garden is a healing place. There is the whole cycle of birth, life, death and regeneration in the garden. I've planted several trees and plants in memory of loved ones. I pray that you will find what you need to bear your great loss.
I'm so sorry to hear about your wife. I was just thinking of you both last week. You must feel very lost, I know I would. I wish you and you family all the best.
Lottie
I am so sorry to hear the news I remember your posts.
I know that nothing anyone says will take that pain away, but I hope in time it will ease.
We are here for you, it will be good to have you back
Gem
i am so sorry to hear of the loss of your wife 4sc6,i asked a question just a short while ago and you answered me almost straight away i didnt know about your loss at the time,please accept my most sincere sympathies,i think its wonderful what you are doing in your wifes memory, kindest regards chris
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Posted by Rainjustlearning (U12861332) on Monday, 1st November 2010
My heart goes out to you as well 4sc6, death is never nice no matter who you loose, I think we all new she was poorly when you used to post as FSC, be of good cheer and know that we are all here for you any time any day.
Rain
So sorry to hear your sad news 4sc6.
You said:
Although I was the gardener every plant I grow from now will be in her memoryÂ
Many of us are pleased with the praise that we receive from our "other half" when we grow something nice. I often wonder, if I lost my wife, whether I would have the will to carry on growing plants - just for myself. You carry on growing them, and tell the generous people who contribute here. They can be your "substitute partner"?
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Posted by preciousblossum (U13870137) on Monday, 1st November 2010
will be thinking of you smiler
I, too, cherish my late husband's plants - sadly, he had the green thumb, not me.
May I just say, in your terrible loss, that the Macmillan forum has threads where those like us can share their grief.
With kindest wishes, at such a nightmare time.
Eliza
My condolences. I hope you can find some peace in your plot, I know that the 'therapy' works for me.
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Posted by grandcottagegardener (U14258183) on Monday, 1st November 2010
My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
Take comfort in the knowledge that your strength and loving care was the greatest gift you could have ever given her.
A wheelbarrow full of and good wishes comes your way and know that your gardening friends will always be here for you.
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