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From rape to reconciliation: Thordis and Tom’s story

As a teenager, Australian Tom Stranger travelled to Iceland on an exchange and met 16-year-old, Thordis Elva. They had a brief, and sweet, teenage romance. It ended when Tom raped Thordis at her home after a Christmas dance. Before either of them came to terms with his act of violence, he returned to Australia. Nine years later she decided to email him, telling him of the deep trauma he caused. In reply, he acknowledged his actions as rape, and they began a raw and painful, but ultimately healing dialogue. The two have written a book together, South of Forgiveness, about their experience. Jane speaks to Thoris Elva and Tom Stranger about their journey from sexual violence to reconciliation.

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11 minutes