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When Tisha’s father-in-law died, suddenly, abroad, he left no part of his quarter million pound estate to her husband David. Everything was left to David’s younger brother. No explanation was offered either, leaving Tisha and David to get over the shock and work out why.

Tisha recalls David’s reaction "He was completely stunned and numbed by it - there're a whole range of emotions - from utter rage and fury, to absolute sadness and tears and wondering why, and questioning what you’ve done."

There was no indication in the will as to why David had been disinherited. Tisha, "I would find the whole incident easier to cope with had we known and they’d had the courage to say ‘we’re not going to leave it to you and this is why’. At least there’d have been some sort or dialogue."

The funeral was an extremely difficult occassion. David was distressed at the loss of his father and bewildered by disinheritance. After the funeral Tisha remembers they began to question themselves, "What had we done? In families, we all do things over the years that our parents don’t like - as my children will do things I don’t like. But it’s about expectations. If we’d had an inkling, we could have adjusted ..." The whole incident engendered very confused feelings since David’s father had spent time with Tisha, David and their sons, "There had been no indication of this way he was thinking and feeling."

David and Tisha are now left to speculate on the reason. Tisha wonders whether David's parents disapproved of their son's divorce and remarriage, and that this was their way of punishing him. But as Tisha re-iterates, they can only speculate."The hardest thing for David", says Tisha, " is the legacy he’s been left is of uncertainty and unsureness about things that in the past he felt sure about." As a result, Tisha and David have made sure that their own children know exactly what heir parents' will contains.

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